Settle In?

Sometimes I struggle with resisting to settle in and grow up. Not in the Peter Pan way, but a large part of me really wants to resist being the married couple who always stays in and never goes to Halloween parties or social events. On the other hand, I don’t want to be (and really can’t be) that couple who is always out and about with people and doing things that we wear ourselves out.

I know it’s about balancing those two, but it can be tougher than it sounds.

Like tonight for example. Part of me doesn’t want to be that couple that stays home and doesn’t go into the city to a friend’s halloween party on a weeknight. I’m not ready to settle in. But on the other hand, I don’t want to go into the city and be with a bunch of people, but rather have a relaxing night at home watching old scary movies or going over to a friend’s house to pass out candy.

I’m 25 now and have been married for almost 3 years now. It’s time to start settling in, but I’m not ready. But how do you balance both?

I love the simplicity of a home life being working around the house, spending time with family and not much more beyond that. I love hanging out with our married friends who just had a baby and enjoying their pace of life with that. They are still active, but satisfied being at home as a family a lot.

I also enjoy any time I can get to be out with friends who may or may not be married going out to eat together, going to movies or to a concert. I love going from an event for the school to hanging out with friends from church or even playing an extra event during the week or weekend with a bunch of friends.

This is really a simple concept. Learn to balance the two, right? I hope I really can learn to do balance it well. I am not near ready to settle in, but some nights, I can’t wait to.